A family of support groups for people that have been affected by the problem of alcoholism within their family is identified as Al-Anon. The goal of theses groups is to be advantageous and therapeutic.
Al- Anon is a support organization for the friends and family members of problem drinkers, founded in 1951. 16 years after Bill W founded Alcoholics Anonymous (AA), Al-Anon was founded by Lois W. his wife and Anne B. She formed an organization for people similar to her, after confronting the hardships of assisting a recovering alcoholic in her own life. Al-Anon is an organization which supports itself through donations provided by members. Support groups meetings help alcoholics' family members and friends to cope with the situation and treat their loved ones better, even if they haven't recovered yet.
The key activity of Al-Anon is to support its members - drunkards' relatives - by making them realize that they are not alone.
The Effects On A Family Due To Alcoholism
Al-Anon recognizes that alcoholism affects everyone in the family not just the addicted member. For an alcoholic to recover, they need the support of friends and family.
Sometimes alcoholics' family members blame themselves for their loved one's' drinking habits; they also may not fully understand why recovery should be their relative's priority. Support meetings can help deal about these issues in the best way while also making members understand that alcoholism should be treated as a family illness.
Alateen- Al-Anon Meetings Intended For Teenagers
Al-Anon is also home for a group which is identified as Alateen and is catering to youngsters that are affected by alcoholism within their family.
Young people are permitted to meet with others of their own age at these meetings, making the experiences more similar and advantageous.
Reasons To Partake In An Al-Anon Group
Al-Anon members benefit by being introduced to other people and families who have suffered from alcoholism. All members have worked through some issues though the details may differ. Al-Anon provides a key benefit and that is to help people finding others who have had similar experiences to talk about. These meetings are widespread all over the country. There is always an Al-Anon program near you and you just need to get in touch with us on 0800 772 3971 .
What Happens During The Meetings
Al-Anon meetings are open for anybody who is affected by someone else's drinking habit. If you are worried about somebody's heavy drinking or if the drunkard's lifestyle somehow affects your life , Al-Anon will help you.
A number of people are not certain about what they can expect and are therefore, hesitant to attend their first meeting. What you must remember when you attend an Al-Anon meeting:
First and foremost, attending Al-Anon is anonymous
All the members of this group have had an encounter with an alcoholic in their lives
No one is subject to talk about or discuss their issue, but it is encouraged
The Meetings Usually Vary
Some may be more beneficial for you than others.
Al-Anon is not based on any religion
Al-Anon meetings follow the 12 Step program
The meetings conducted by Al-Anon have a simple formula which gives the attendees the option of taking what they prefer and leaving behind the rest. In this way, instead of telling attendees what they should do, meetings target on exchanging experiences and difficulties.
Most meetings begin with a reading of Al Anon 12 Step program. The Alcoholics Anonymous started the 12 step recovery program that is being used in the Al-Anon meetings. An Al-Anon member is required to take on a sponsor who will help them work through the program and provide support when needed. These steps are the following:
We admit that we were powerless over alcohol that our lives had become unmanageable.
The members learn how to accept alcohol addiction as an illness, which they cannot control if somebody else suffers from it.
Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.
Pretty often members try to change or control their significant others and drive themselves to the verge.
The members then recognise the fact that there is a solution out there for them.
Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.
Learning to let go is a primary step in the program and acceptance.
Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
Self-discovery plays a huge role in making the steps; and this is its beginning.
A list of how they may have offended themselves or their loved ones (such as with threats) is made by attendees.
Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.
Writing each problem enables them to examine them one by one.
Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.
This is an important step because it comes after accepting in full that the recovery process is supported by a greater power.
Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings.
When they reach This point, the member can realize the part they played by judging and trying to control their loved ones which could have driven them into more drinking.
Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.
Usually, making up for the wrongs done begins with oneself.
Many people blame themselves for their addiction of their loved one.
These people had better be willing to forgive and make amends to themselves.
Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.
When you decide to make amends, Then follows the action of doing so.
Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.
Going through the 12 steps is a process which will take time.
Slipping up is quite normal despite members already having made an inventory.
It s usually a duration and this is outlined by stage 10.
Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out.
This is a personal, spiritual step that involves acceptance and comfort amongst the anxiety of recovery.
Having had a spiritual awakening as a result of these steps we tried to carry this message to others and to practice these principles in our affairs.
The last step is a realization that the members journey has not finished.
They are encouraged with support to use what they have learned to assist others.
Knowledge Of Higher Power
Despite Al-Anon not being a religious program of any kind, the members within do have an acceptance of a greater power. The term "higher power" is, however, open to interpretation according to the personal beliefs of individuals. Al-Anon gladly accepts members from all religious traditions and denominations; nobody is forced to alter their beliefs here.